The Ups Are Where It’s At

I try to keep my eyes open. Though half the time it’s unclear that they’re closed. Easy it is to think you’re aware of things to then realized you hadn’t been viewing a mirage of a reflection, levels of misapprehensions atop each other. It’s been a hard week, at least in some ways, so perhaps a touch of fatigue and frustration underlies my words. So, let me inhale, exhale, and take back a step or two.

A goal of mine remains to practice my skills of observation, to continue to learn and expand. This intention stems across a spectrum of behaviors, whether in regard to paying attention to people, my environment, thought processes, or anything else. Of course, I’m not successful much of the time and there skulks a persistent doubt that when I think I grasp something that I’m tuned into a falsehood rather than an actuality. Yet, can only do what one can do, and see whatever connections the brain can deliver. Much of the time, people seem to be quite oblivious, which makes me wonder just how disconnected I must, in turn, appear to others.

I was pleased with the post on bird facts, Burke Lake, and herons. To me, it did a good job of being silly, informative, expressing curiosity, and relaying mild ideas within a story format. The style arose after reading a post a friend added to his blog. He personalizes his posts, providing updates on his loved ones as well as himself. He shares what they do, their little quirks. Stories. With this style in mind, I tried to invoke it as well. To take that lesson and see what my incarnation of it might resemble, for the style provides a sense of immediacy, a personal touch. For even if don’t know the people, hearing tales on a personal, relatable level improves the reading experience. Incorporating humanity and life details is why we have literature and movies as well as accounts of nonfictional worlds. So, in some posts I’ll try to include such intimacy.

As mentioned above, this past week has been a touch hard. And this topic has been one that I’ve teetered back-and-forth on in terms of whether to mention it. It’s been stressful. I have concerns that something is wrong with me. I mean I’m still doing my life, to the extent that I can at any moment. I go on runs, do push-ups, keep active. Playing games with friends remains a near daily occurrence. But there are these panic moments that intersperse these interactions. For the past four or five days I’ve had a tingling sensation in my fingertips and legs. And I’ve had a kind of thickness and vibration in my head as well. It’s kind of like a headache, but not. While inhaling, sometimes it feels like only the left side of my lungs is working, as if the air doesn’t reach the recesses of the right lung. But this difficulty in breathing is somewhat normal. Being an allergenic asthmatic, I can never count on full use of my nostrils or lungs. Blockades. Discomforts.

A persistent congestion often makes it hard for me to communicate. I feel like I’m talking through mucus and its always pushing down on me. And, that’s normal. So, it’s unclear whether any difficulties arising now are different. As Kelly once witnessed, as we sat in a theater last year watching Cabaret, I can be nonchalant about this malady. I told her during intermission. I can’t breathe. Let’s finish the musical and then I should visit Urgent Care. I can take you home first. It would surprise me if she caught any of the performance when it started back up. I simply gasped and tried to stay lucid as my supply dwindled, knowing all would be fine once they hooked me up to a nebulizer.

So, I wake up at night. My vision blurry because I have dry eyes, not knowing to what extent this is due to my normal issue or something else. Aware of my breathing, aware of the tingling, I enter a state of panic. I work on exercises in terms of breathing, meditations. I get up and walk around a little. Take my temperature. Use the bathroom. Drink water. Read some until sleep overtakes me again. It is during these moments that I feel terribly alone. Even though Kelly is nearby, to some extent I want to keep this tension away from her, but then to some extent I want her to be apprised so that she can monitor me should any of this turn out to be more than a hypochondriac’s fever.

I think I’ll pass. Yesterday, I entered that portion of time where noises hurt me. You might know of it; maybe when you had chills from a fever or even just from a hangover. Everything is calamitous and loud and painful. The skin aches, as if you’re encased in a lining that sparks pain. I was irritable. Kelly tried to be cute by making silly little noises. She sometimes manifest personality similar to GIR from Invader Zim or perhaps a little odd animal-alien-critter that works off of basic concepts and needs. We’ll essentially become strange, simple creatures from maybe some offshoot Muppet or alien race, like tribbles if they were humanoid and sentient in a way that allows for vocalizations of core concepts like hunger or fatigue. Usually we enjoy these moments. Yet, during these off moments, they become painful, jarring. The brutality of their immediacy within the recesses of my head transforms them into clanging annoyances rather than games. So it goes.

Today, I managed to get a virtual appointment with a doctor. I’m pretty sure the diagnosis was hypochondria or panic attacks or something else. We focused on my medicine and coffee intake, both categories capable of causing tingling sensations. I went through the drills for stroke. Arms up. Arms forward. Smile. Etc. Kelly has had me go through these motions. I feel like a monkey performing, but it provides some sense of normality; yes, I’m fine. I suspect tomorrow will be better, and if not tomorrow then the next day. Meanwhile, I’ll keep trying to learn. I look forward to reading any chapter from the book I’ve been reading, and continuing to try to put words on this glowing substitute for paper.

Angleworms

\While on runs, I’ve been spotting worms that dangle from the beaks of robins. I would love to follow a robin around and measure the length each of its victims. The 18’ of worms a day stat continues to impress my mind. That’s a lot of worm meat to consume on a daily basis. Images of worm after worm being snatched from the ground play out in my imagination. I see montages of them being vacuumed out of the dirt by seemingly insatiable robins. Each day another bout of murderous mayhem for our earthworm neighbors.

Google tells me that these segmented creatures also go by the name angleworms. Of this name, I knew not. Google also shares their scientific classifications with me, which leaves me wondering what it’d be like to know the Latin names for all lifeforms; how different would life feel were I to use that nomenclature rather than our common terms? Quicker would be my ability to connect shared traits, especially were I to know the identity for each level of classification. I’d know that this creature was one of many species in its genus and/or family, and so on up the categorization scheme.

As it stands now, I can group certain species, such as crows, ravens, jays, magpies, among others, being corvids. But, on the whole, my range of such knowledge is spotty, lackluster actually. So, I can only speculate what a deeper appreciation might invoke, though I have found that as my knowledge of flowers, birds, and other entities increases I become further stunned by the webworks of a truly marvelous world.

Amusingly enough, I can likely speak more in-depth on the topic of board games than biology, though, conversely, the details of ethology or ecology or other studies of the kind interest me more deeply. It’s just that in my daily life it’s either easier to take in facts about games or that I’ve simply molding myself into patterns to absorb such information. I fear though that to celebrate such knowledge possibly resembles pontification more than anything useful.

Oftentimes the act of sharing knowledge can seem to be a boorish activity regardless of the topic. Though, I recognize that this danger lurks even more notably when the subject matter is more arcane or, at least, less interesting to most. Kelly, fortunately, humors me by listening to my explanations of game mechanics, comparing and contrasting their implementation across a range of examples. It’s like literature, where you have innovators and masters of various forms. I like to think that I convey these concepts in creative, engaging ways, but I should accept the reality that she’s humoring me, at least to some appreciable degree. And, it’s true, I do appreciate her patience.

Guilty Pleasures

There’s music we each enjoy that we recognize as being a guilty pleasure. What’s beautiful about the spectrum of art is that what’s a guilty pleasure for one person might be integral for another person. Like Tom Petty’s unyielding use of the same several chords might cause a person to detest his music, yet that same person might find the immediacy of time slip away as she feels that she, too, is running down a dream while working on a mystery and going wherever it leads. I love Girls Just Want to Have Fun, and had it serve as my “send tune” a couple of years back, delighting in the absurdity of rolling up to a crag with the windows down and screaming along with Cyndi as she laments the boys who hide their girls from the rest of the world. That sort of jam gets the blood pumping and ready to cruise some hard routes, truly. I don’t fault anyone who disses a pleasure of mine, and I get why they’d dislike it. For, I have no interest in your rock-out to Journey; however, I do appreciate that you derive something meaningful from their music.

On this note, I have possessions that are guilty pleasures. Like, my Apple Watch embarrasses me. In the DC area where people seem consumed by ideas of meritocracy, affluence, power, pedigrees, and other constructs of these ilk, you see a good number of people with such watches. They’re not uncommon, and it seems that with each wave of updates to the hardware more people succumb to their allure. When I was in Seattle back in February, that no one seemed to wear smartwatches struck me. I felt like an outlier; it was like I was thrust back a few years when I first secured mine, an outlier of sorts who appears to outsiders to have too much money while also kneeling too much at the altar of Apple.

It’s a frivolous, silly purchase. Not to say it doesn’t provide perks, for it does. Tracking miles during runs is wonderful. Having the device stream info at me as I gasp for air can prompt me to go farther than I might have otherwise traveled. There’s something inspiring about feeling energized, seeing that I have logged X miles, and knowing that I possess the time and energy to accrue Y more miles. It also provides other fleeting benefits, like timing planks or sessions on a systems board. Use of a phone can handle such tracking, but it’s a little more streamlined a process, for me at least, to use the watch. Also, being that I’m a slave to notifications, it keeps me away from my phone, easy it is to see the watch update, and move on with life, rather than finding myself holding my phone and then possibly playing with it, thereby squandering time.

I realize this last example reveals a bigger issue: my battle with distractions and weakness for immediate gratifications. The ability to control music, podcasts, and other media from the wrist has proven quite useful as well. But, again, if applying a stamp that reads “trivial,” “unnecessary,” or “exorbitant trinket,” then you could press such a stamp against the watch. And, then, after having done so, reach for each of those other stamps to press each of them against the device as well.

Anyway, the main reason I want to mention the watch, which apparently “required” an extensive disclaimer regarding the fact that I own it, is that it amuses me with its feedback. Most days I go for a run before noon, but if I’m busy with work then I might not go until later in the day. Around the time I’d have wrapped up the run on a normal day, it’ll display an alert, something like: “Your move and exercise rings are usually further along by now.” For those not in the know, the watch tracks three metrics each day: (1) whether you stood and walked around for 3 minutes each hour, (2) how many minutes you spent exercising, and (3) how many active calories you burned, completion of rings indicates your progress toward a goal that you’ve set for each of metrics. It provides other messages, all along these lines. Some are supportive: way to go, you closed all three rings. Others, usually sent around the time you’re in pajamas, are prodding, “A brisk, X-minute walk should [allow you to close your move ring].”

Eventually, I hope they’ll provide more control over these messages. I picture a range of checkbox or range selector options that allow you fine tune the tone of the messages. Want more snark? Want abusiveness? Passive aggression feedback? Aggressive prodding? Insults? Pleading? “Listen, I know you’re a lazy POS, but maybe you could at least pick up the phone to call the ambulance for what’s surely a coronary in your future.” What also cracks me up is that unless you’re full-on every day, the watch is never satisfied. You could completely crush your targets for ten days straight and then on day eleven you simply wish to rest, for maybe you’re sore, barely able to move, having done ten back-to-back ultramarathons followed by hundreds of push-ups and an hour of abs focused HIIT. Nonetheless, the watch will jab you: “hey, WTF, why’s your move ring look like crap today.” It’s insanity.

Jackasses

A friend from pre-college posted the following message on FB:

  • “Get mad at me for saying this if you want, but reading/hearing middle class white people call stay at home orders oppression is HILARIOUS and reminds me that America truly has been a very different place for ethnic minorities.#HonestObservation #ImNOTHereToLieToYou #Privilege. Edit: This is undoubtedly true for all marginalized groups.”

I have a vague memory that involves this friend. It’s of when we were in middle school, mostly during a math class, which was taught by an inept guy who was doomed as a teacher given that he took to heart how his students perceived him. Given that at the age we were at, you shouldn’t put much stock in our opinions and most of us were likely selfish jerks, this guy was a failure at his job. He catered to people who pretended to not understand what he taught, thus his earnest desire to leave no student behind, before that phrase became a political angle, meant we mostly spun around in circles. Or, rather, I recall trying to balance our desks on two and then even one leg. Boredom precipitated tomfoolery.

Part of our shenanigans involved prodding at boundaries. I forget the specifics, but a group of us would jokingly use racial, cultural, and other similarly minded slurs toward each other. Well, not even slurs at times, but rather categories. No malice meant. We, at least this was my take on what we were doing, were mocking the absurdity of these terms, of the ideas behind their use. We’d declare, “Whatever, Jesus Christ worshipper” or, “So says the Jew,” or whatever else. I suspect we may have also used some of the usual suspects when it comes to outright offensive language, and I discretely recall someone receiving a Happy Bar Mitzvah card for a birthday, which isn’t necessarily a religious assault, but, at the same time, isn’t what I’d label as classy. I think this guy, the Facebook poster, was part of this crew, though I may be misremembering. I know that he was in the class, and I believe that we cemented our friendship during this class as we sought purpose, for learning math wasn’t the outcome toward which we were heading.

Of course, at that age, I’m sure that this friend had a better idea of cultural differences than I had at the time. Being black, I suppose that shit hits you on day one. There’s no looking away. It’s like you’re sitting in a chair with an apparatus strapped your face, which provides prongs that hold open your eyelids so that your eyes can stare at a projection and the images that it carries. Your ears, well they hear things, and you’re smart, so you pick up on what’s happening in society on the TV, with your family and friends, and basically every vibration that we call life that happens while you’re alive in this culture. Not that you even need to be smart to pick up on these social constructs, on how the world works, for we’re all pretty smart even if we don’t make use of our intellect at all times. You just have to take a moment to pay attention. At that age, I wasn’t paying attention. I was blind, essentially. Most people don’t pay attention; that’s the first thing you learn once you have a moment to close your eyes and reflect.

I remember, in history class, one of our classmates would lament that the South had lost the Civil War, which caused this particular friend a lot of, hmm, I’ll call it anguish though it manifested as incredulous anger. Like part of him couldn’t believe how dumb her words were, for she seemed to lack all concept that what she was saying. She even said that the south would rise again. I now realize that it’s a miracle that he didn’t smack her. She might has well added that she wished that her family could own his, which, now that I think of it, I think may have been part of our pushing-the-boundaries jokes, “my great-great grandfather owned your great-great grandfather, or something along those lines.” As I said above, that math teacher was a fool. He either had no clue that we were being ridiculous or didn’t have the temerity to do anything about it; I hope he found some sense of dignity before long, for sans a sense of self, the world steamrolls you.

Anyway, I share all of this mostly because I miss this friend, for we’ve been in different states for the bulk of our lives and people sort of do their own things, but we have our memories, and I think of those I shared with him from time-to-time. Sleepovers. Conversations. Sports. Games. A trip with his father to a time share. Various tidbits. I don’t retain the specifics of many things, but a decent chunk of memories that he and I shared I continue to curate, even trivial moments like a time I picked him up for school, which, in retrospect, was a touch absurd given that I had to drive like ten minutes the wrong direction to retrieve him, but he was my friend and it was fun to hang out as we went to that pen that is our educational system.

Though we rarely interact via Facebook, and it’s been years since I’ve seen this guy, I do keep an eye on what he’s up to and what he shares. His life path interests me, and I appreciate things that he says and does, like helping people get to voting stations, regardless of whom they’re voting for. He’s one of the good ones. I guess what I’m trying to explain is that his post—and it being the morning and my having guzzled coffee and, thereby, feeling energy that needed to be focused—provoked me to respond. I wrote the following:

“The world turns, and things change as it revolves. Yet, idiots shall remain idiots, blinded by their hypocrisy. What’s unfortunate is that these people stem from a legacy that instills them a voice, which means their idiocy will continue to pervade our lives for years to come. These open-up jackasses couldn’t see gradations or nuances before COVID and most of them will continue to bump through life without opening their eyes, their feckless helpless blundering a potential harm to us whenever it nears.”

My friend replied with: “I wanted to both love and laugh at this comment. Well said sir.”

To which I responded: “Thanks! Though, add in some tears as well, for the optimist in me ever hopes that things will change despite persistent evidence otherwise.”

Though, I regret having written jackasses. Part of me hopes that these people will engage with others and that they can change; calling them jackasses does not invite circumspection. It’ll tune them out; cause division. I’ve changed in some ways, opened my eyes and reconsidered various facets of my life. Other people have done so as well, and, sure, some people will never change, but I feel that you must keep clear the pathway that can get them to reconsider assumptions and perspectives. One of the most amazing people of whom I’ve learned is Daryl Davis. His story, of which I’ve heard a couple versions of and probably prefer the Snap Judgment account titled The Silver Dollar Lounge, in short, is that he befriended KKK members, which caused them to leave the Klan. That level of faith in humans and desire to give people a chance to improve themselves despite risk to personal safety astounds me. What he managed to do through curiosity and a willingness to put aside his ego and preconceived notions inspires me.

Yes, KKK people and Nazis and all sorts of people who believe, say, and/or do things that I would label as terrible are detrimental to society, they pollute our ears and distract us, as a society, from improving. Yet, I do not know that I can discount humans generally, they suck so often, myself included, but there’s always the chance that some percentage of people can improve, and I find it difficult to simply say, “you’re trash,” and refuse to pull on the rope to which they could cling should they wish to extract themselves from the quicksand that pulls them down. For we’re all sinking in mucks of varying substances and sometimes we can clamber out on our own, but, in the end, much of what saves us from ourselves can be the little insights we notice, such as to extract oneself from the mire you can sometimes use nearby roots rather than a rope thrown to you.

I believe that we can all improve, it just takes a desire to do so, and any deities watching me from the beyond surely know that there are so many ways I, as with all of my fellow denizens of earth, am a jackass. I can see these past faux pas moments stream along as I recollect past moments, innumerable and unyielding they appear. So, in this regard, I hope that I have changed, and recognize that for many of my failings I still endeavor to improve; accordingly, I wish the potential for such evolutions to all.

Birding through COVID-19

Birds have become part of the COVID-19 life. We had been watching them from our balcony. The center of our apartment complex hosts many trees, of which local and migratory birds frequent. Most of the usual suspects alight here. Robins. Crows. Grackles. Doves. Starlings. Cardinals. Blue jays.

For Kelly’s birthday, she found herself the owner of a pair of high-quality binoculars. They live on a table near our living room windows, alongside The Sibley Field Guide to Birds of Eastern North America. Most days will see her giggling as she uses them to observe the absurd antics of birds. Robins and other ground scavengers bring her much delight whenever she spies them throwing leaves and other debris about as they quest for worms.

The other day I got her the newest Sibley book, What It’s Like to Be a Bird, which provides numerous facts about birds, generally as well as for specific species. She regurgitates tidbits for me as we look at these marvelous critters. I imagine a lever that I can pull to have her spit out a factoid. As we watch a bird, she’ll whisper what feels like a secret: robins can eat 18’ of worms a day. If a bird ate pizza, the proportionate number of calories for a human would be 25 pizzas a day. I may have these facts wrong. She remembers the details better than me, but you get the idea, and the figures are close enough to accurate. Once you enter the realm of the surprising, the details are all a touch fluid anyhow.

From our apartment window, we once saw a yellow-bellied sapsucker. Though, we’ve not yet seen anything exotic or unexpected. Snowy owls aren’t making appearances, or red-tailed hawks for that matter. I dream of barred owls, though recognize the divide between desire and possibility. With the arrival of leaves, it has become more difficult to spot our avian neighbors, and it’s become even more difficult to photograph them. We still hear their calls, so their presence continues to delight our senses.

Most weekends we travel somewhere nearby to stroll through the woods, along fields, or within wetlands. The primary goal is to move; to walk and spend time together. Though, given that Kelly has resorted to unyielding exercise to deal with this situation and that I am not too far behind her in this regard, for I run most days and do some core or arms or legs workouts most days as well, it’s not like we need these trips to combat an otherwise sedentary lifestyle. I had referred to our trips as hikes, but Kelly chided me. We’re barely walking, it’s not hiking. She’s right. Though, I maintain, and I think that she agrees, that we’re conducting a form of exercise, nonetheless. Being away from the home, and wandering about alongside flora and fauna, does exercise one’s spirits, replenishing us. Being locked up in a home isn’t necessarily the definition of comfort that most people would scribe.

What we mostly do during these walks is unearth birds at which we then stare. A call sounds, we stop. We look. We regard. She uses the binoculars. I use my camera, equipped with a telephoto lens. There’s a lot of standing around happening during our walks. Most trips involve us seeing a species that we hadn’t seen since we began our explorations alongside the birth of the pandemic. Red-winged blackbird. Tree swallow. Titmouse. Warbler, of which we’ve seen many varieties. Mockingbird. Eastern Towhee. Great Blue Heron. Egret. Osprey. And the usual suspects, named above. Numerous types of woodpeckers as well.

As the weather warms, I fear that these excursions may cease for each trip sees an uptick of other people who have elected to leave their homes to enjoy fresh air and pleasures of nature. Being near people, generally, does not concern me, but the presence of many folk does increase my anxiety.

Yesterday, we visited Burke Lake Park, which was overrun by individuals and families performing activities that fit many a label: joggers, cyclists, meanderers, romantic excursionists, fishers, etc. We left the trail to wander along the kiddie-train tracks or traverse the roadways when feasible, but much of the time we were being passed by those locomoting quickly as well as crossing paths with people circumnavigating the reservoir via a counterclockwise path. It was a bit too packed for me, so we’ll need to be more discerning for our next jaunt.

We did see something amazing at Burke Lake, though. Throughout our hike we heard great commotion. Lots of geese flocked about doing geese things as geese are known to do, so we sort of assumed that they were the sole source of the ever-present din. There’s a small island in the reservoir. Only near the end of our stroll were we on a section of the trail that nears the island. The cacophony was most intense along this stretch and we could hear variance in the pitch. Up went the binoculars and camera. To our astonishment we saw at least a dozen large nests in the trees, many nests per tree. In each stood or sat a heron. As we observed, a heron would arrive, sometimes with fish, and take the place of the heron that had been in the nest so that bird could then fly off, presumably to hunt. If the arriving heron had been successful, then it would regurgitate the fish for the young. Given that these nests were at least 100’ up in the trees, we couldn’t see the chicks. However, it was astounding to see so many gigantic birds in one tree, and then to see numerous adjacent trees each with multiple herons occupying enormous nests. It was really cool. Either Kelly’s bird-fact lever had jammed, or she hasn’t yet made it to the heron chapter, for the extent of this colony left her equally stunned.

Alchemist Turns Gray

Paul Coelho’s The Alchemist is written beautifully. That I listened to it as an audiobook made the smooth narrative easy to follow as I ran across suburban streets. I wouldn’t recommend this novel to anyone, unless they’re seeking something light and fast. It reads almost like a self-help tome written, an allegorical tale steeped in South America’s magic realism literary culture. Whereas Marquez’s novels like 100 Years of Solitude require some engagement and thought, Coelho spells most everything out for you. Not to say that efforts to peel beneath its veneer would not reveal additional layers or substance but rather that you’d find much of the veneer to be its substance; the novel spells out much of what it contains. I might have missed a lot, and perhaps its didactic nature beguiled me, shrouding its richer concepts beyond my sight, but I suspect that part of the book’s popularity lies in its accessibility and general message, which are things that I support and appreciate.

I finished listening to the novel during a run. I had planned to time its completion with my return home; however, an urge to add another half mile struck so I put on some music. Given that I was fumbling with my phone while running along streets, which also involves ensuring that I maintain proper distance from passersby, I selected one of the first options I saw. A Touch of Grey sounded, which isn’t a song I listen to frequently, and it has likely been years since I’ve played it. Sometimes it’ll come on while I’m shopping for groceries but then it’s more of a backdrop that does remind me that I’ll survive the store, which, I suppose, I appreciate. At this moment, it was the perfect song. The Alchemist brightened my mood with its general theme and then this cheerful, optimistic song fit this COVID-19 heaviness. “I will survive. I will get by.” “Every silver lining has a touch of grey.” The bouncy nature of the tune meshed with my stride. I sang along, I smiled. I laughed. My pace quickened. It was wonderful. Then Friend of the Devil came on. And then Uncle John’s Band. Ok, so we’re heading through the checklist of pop hits, but, whatever, these songs are nevertheless good and sparkly and they fueled my reserves, bounded me forward, and got me through an additional couple of miles beyond what I had planned. Not a bad way to wean a little love.

Observing Golden Hues

A pathetic jade-like plant sits in a small pot amongst an African violet and a dead succulent near the bedroom window. This morning sunlight bathed it. The edges of its tiny thumb-like leaves glowed. Observing these golden hues, I thought of auras. Outside it had rained through much of the morning. Anxiety and life and whatever else had jostled me awake for short bursts throughout the early hours. Fragments of these moments remain retained, thereby counterpointing this floodlit plant with the foggy vapors of the dawn’s heavy rains. Now, as I accept my first motions toward entering the day ahead, this plant strikes me with its beauty. It resembles a bonsai tree in its diminutive state. It grows horizontally, threatening eventual doom should it not expand other directions. We rotate it, but it maintains a consistent path regardless of to which cardinal point this finger-like projection aims. Perhaps this shelf serves as an offering to Osiris, Hel, Hades or whomever plants might worship, for the blooms of the violet have shrived and now decay within the center of the plant’s mass.

We know not the species of the dead succulent, though when alive it sported fine hairs that Kelly would stroke daily while at work. She enjoyed how it felt, finding it odd yet soothing. I never touched the plant for we transported it home once the lockdown began, and it did not survive the transportation. Some plants live to die, in that they grow in unsustainable fashions, branching out in one direction so as to tip their pots or to an extent that their structure cannot handle.

This plant espoused suicide through its growth patterns. Finicky and temperamental, the combination of a self-destructive growth pattern, some temporary neglect due to the work-from-home transition, and a minor calamity when it tipped over while traveling home, thereby ripping it from its dirt bedding, thereby destroying many of its roots. At home, it progressed from green to brown; its integrity softened. One day, it exploded. Or, maybe a better description is deflated for suddenly moisture released, wetting the dirt, leaving behind skin reminiscent more of a snake shedding than of a plant. Light’s warmth dried the soil, desiccated the plant. We let its carcass remain. A sort of chalk outline of a memory of what once was.

One day we’ll replace the dead plant with something new. Perhaps we’ll locate another of the its species and continue its story in the guise of a 2.0 version. For now, we have this triad of fading beauty, bizarre life choices, and extinguished promise. Yet, how the sun strikes the jade makes me rethink how I conceive this shelf. It’s so beautiful, the plant and its illumination. This world can be so splendid, I remember. The sky has taken on pastel hues. Even the water-drenched bricks along the highest portions of the buildings in view conjure a sense of beauty and mystery. I picture the droplets soaking into the bricks, flowing within in a manner reminiscent to a creek cascading down rocky mountain slopes. Some doves swoop past, seeking balconies higher than my window view grants my vision access.

Yesterday I felt a tad overwhelmed by the news. Certain ailments have always caused me distress. As in, the concept of them pains me. To contemplate what causes them and their effects causes me distress. Strokes and heart attacks terrify me. Their prospect cripples me upon thinking of them for I then imagine what it might be like to suffer their brutality. Seeing that blood clots is a manifestation of this enigmatic disease that’s overtaken our world society left me feeling helpless. Strokes. Bodies turned against themselves. The demon inside being literally just that. It’s incapacitating.

What scares me the most is not dying but, rather, thinking about what it would be like for loved ones. They’re the ones that carry any burden of my passing. I think of trivial things such as purchases that are soon arriving in the mail, trinkets that my girlfriend should not need to deal with in terms of donating or selling. Even the surprise of the arrival would remind her of loss. To gain is to remember what you have lost, at times. I think of bank accounts, credit statements, possessions, and all of the associated work. I worry about where my savings will end up, and whom can access it, or, more importantly, who might lack access. These things are trivial, I realize, but they’re ways to ignore the more pressing aspects of loss. To think that the adventures and memories we had planned will be never achieved. To believe that inside jokes will no longer be replicated.

Everyone will forge on, but that I will have become a story of loss saddens me. My solace is that I know that we can adapt, and I guess that’s the paradox of my fear. If one of us were to succumb I’d rather it be me, though I know that I could handle any loss, but I’d rather not wish that need on anyone else. In the confused state that results from this confusion, I know that we must both survive, but that we might not is what terrifies me.

Each person out there would be severely missed if lost, and each day we see the death toll numbers increase. It’s a bit much at times, which is why I stare at the sunlit ovals and reach my fingertips toward Kelly. She murmurs an appreciative noise as she stretches in response to the contact. I glance over to see a slight smile. Upturned lips, always a delightful sight. No idea what comes next, but staying alive to try to spark such wonders, her happiness and all that it brings, shall remain a bedrock of my metaphorical soul.

Reminded of pleasures and of possibilities, I left the bed to make come coffee and pancakes and to take on the world. It’s a lazy Friday full of reading, some gaming, contact with friends via technology, and whatever else shall arrive at our door.

Conflicts Amongst Conflicts

Games can cause pain. That’s something we all know yet tend to not discuss, let alone recognize. Much of the distress people undergo is fleeting. Some sense of consternation arising from stress. Disappointment can prompt passing ire or malaise. Oftentimes, I’ve witnessed a person berate him or herself or disengage due to a poor decision or outcome. At the close of some games, a person would lament that so-and-so won, and sigh, with weariness, “for what else would you expect?” These moments stick with me. I’m sensitive, and want people to have fun, enjoy their experiences, and not get too invested in outcomes. Yet, the reality is that we each come to games with our individual expectations and baggage, and what another person undergoes during a game lies outside my control.

Sometimes barbs prick people’s psyche, whether egos or insecurities or simply feelings. In a recent game where you enter into battles with other players, a friend became upset when I indicated that the move was faulty because another player would surely win. The friend did not like that I pointed out what the other person needed to do to win, which was common information and did not seem like table talk to me. In general terms, whether I crossed the line with my commentary, I suspect not, yet due to this person being angered, I did cross the line with this person.

Then there are people who behave in secret, trying to mask open information and ensuring that all info that need not be disclosed stays shrouded. Hard it is to unearth how many cards they hold, what they did on their last turn, or any other game-state info. To play within some level of secrecy shall provide an edge, I suppose. Discussing games, and endeavoring to keep information exchanged, in terms of strategies, perspectives, options, and the like please me, and enrich the game, though I recognize this viewpoint is not the consensus.

Reading online strategy disinterests me, for the beauty of the game is to learn and deduce things, whether with friends or individually. Like, with Scythe, from generally following a Facebook page for it, I know that there are strategies for each faction/board combo that can end the game quickly. That you can conduct your moves based on the given board to ramp up to achieving six stars. The idea of memorizing and performing these scripts disinterests me. What’s the point?

In contrast, sharing what you recognize, or think you have recognized, is a strong aspect of the joy that gaming can bring to me. To keep things level, if I learn something online, I share it. It’s an open book, this gaming realm. I do, however, enjoy reading discussions of rules, reviews of games, and other various posts, within which strategy tips may be embedded. In terms of these trinkets, I try to share them. Some of my friends engage, others don’t. It runs the gamut, with some people wishing to engage and others not wishing to do so. I suppose one aspect of Root that I love is that table talk is incorporated into the game. You can reveal where others might be scheming and point out weaknesses. The balance in the game is contingent on the players poking at weaknesses and maximizing opportunities. I haven’t been the Riverfolk yet, but the idea of offering to move my pieces places and conduct other various actions so as to entice purchases appeals to me. We only used them once, and I think we had engrained ideas of “table talk” that prevented them from being fully explored.

There are personalities adverse to not being the alpha on the top, or perhaps personalities adverse to allowing another person to be the expert. With rules explanations, certain people will not engage, preferring to stare at rulebooks rather than listen. The act of sharing the game via an explanation not being an enjoyable part of the process. At these moments, it’s unclear to me whether it’s personal toward me, or simply the other person’s general nature. I know when I’m not being clear or precise with my explanation, which happens sometimes. Other times, I slay the elucidation. I think, on the whole, I’m decent at it, though I do recognize that when people don’t pay attention and then ask multiple questions that I had answered that I can become frustrated, especially when people ask the same question in succession, as if they’re unable to pay attention to another person’s question. Perhaps I’m too demanding, and that these past interactions have turned certain people off from my explanations.

I have been focused on the impacts of the games themselves, whether preparatory, during, or following. There are related but external hurts as well. Like when you’re not invited to a gaming event, for whatever the reason. There’s an entire world of ways that you can be slighted due to games. Learning that people have a habitual game night of which you hadn’t be previously aware can hurt, as can trying to have set up games to learn that people declined to then play the same game with others.

Game groups can be like dating in this regard. Each person brings strengths and weaknesses, and you accept these traits, or you move on to other people. Ultimately, for me, it’s good to balance a range of people for varying games, which allows you to overlap what works with certain individuals while distancing the mechanics that falter as appropriate. Within my mind, I can picture someone and assign game characteristics that’ll suffice in terms of length, complexity, game mechanics, etc. Some people lack the ability to pay attention and need fast turns. Others bog within analysis paralysis and need simplified options. Some people detest bluffing or might not like direct conflicts. My view of each friends is a series of overlapping circles, seeking the best option to match where everyone’s preferences converge.

Ultimately, my goal remains to not take things personally, while taking in as much gaming splendor as I can, even if this means that I must play Splendor, which isn’t a knock on the game, but rather a recognition that there are richer experiences to be had.

Searching for Gaming Content, and Cloudspire

What to do with the gaming portion of this website remains the key question; the section on other stuff is easy, given that it’s the catch-all realm. Critters gets writings focused on, well, critters, which probably could be merged with other stuff, but we’ll see to what extent each section persists without the other’s presence. Climbing shall remain a barren landscape, I fear, given that COVID-19 has crushed that aspect of life into memories and anticipations. Though, I suppose I could relabel it as exercise during this hopefully temporary foray into the apocalypse. Ultimately, the goal behind this website is to prompt me to write, as a means to focus energy during the insanity at large as well as to see what habits, hobbies, curiosity, or the like might emerge.

I hope to connect my love for games to this website in a meaningful, useful fashion. This could mean writing reviews, creating videos to explain rules or serve as reviews, or some other endpoint. No idea. No idea seems firm, and options remain equal parts boundless and inchoate. I thought to write nebulous, but at least each nebula appears discrete in the night sky, and the presence of each excites many a viewer. Messier has no stranglehold on such elations.

This morning wakefulness deprived me of extended slumber. About two hours before my scheduled time to arouse my senses, my eyes were open, backed by an alert mind. Rather than linger in the bed, as is the typical outcome of restlessness at war with my desire to knock back hours of sleep, I moseyed to the kitchen to stumble through coffee making and food gathering to plant myself before my in-session game of Cloudspire. Griege Solo 1, with two waves completed.

This faction feels wild; the entire evolution process is exciting in that it changes the pace of your onslaught, for the evolving units camp out for several turns before they charge toward the enemy gate in powered-up form. The hero who takes health from the gate creates an unnerving situation on the home front, for losing your gate becomes a matter of a powerful enemy or a few mediocre ones sneaking past your units. The powers on the units are fun; they introduce new options in terms of having a unit with toxic secretion and another one with the ability to leave toxic fumes polluting a path upon its death. It’ll be interesting to see how the dearth of spire types will play out, given that the two options seem viable for many situations, even if limited. The Griege feel like a shaken-up incarnation of the familiar, though to what extent they’ll play out different from the other factions remains to be seen, for whereas the other four factions were present throughout the preceding solo scenarios, this marks their first time outside of the plastic chip tray within which they entered my home. I will say that reading through their abilities and considering the various fortress upgrades left me giddy. You can buy a mercenary and essentially sacrifice it to the hive to infuse its ability to your minions or consume it to heal your gate?! Color me intrigued by the less enticing market options!

Overall, my solo plays have been satisfying. I love that much of the game requires you to use the rules against the game, for the AI follows prescribed actions, and then you get to choose for it when multiple viable paths, sometimes in the literal sense, present themselves. That you can influence who hits whom, and set in motion a series of events that will cause area-effect abilities to cause harm to the AI, pleases me, as does flipping landmark minions which will deplete an opposing unit’s health well before it makes it near your own units. That each solo scenario alters the overarching framework keeps me curious, as well as teasing out variations on how to remain nimble.

With only three solo missions left, for I succeeded in securing three renown this morning, I have decided to space out the remaining games. Rather than set up the second Griege solo scenario, I packed away the contents.

Not sure what I shall unearth next, perhaps Too Many Bones. Though, going down the solo rabbit hole present by Hoplomachus: Origins does intrigue me. It seems I’m on a Chip Theory Games kick, though I still wish to see what sort of soloing can be secured by Paladins of the West and Brass: Birmingham. Also, running another Mage Knight session could be fun, as well as picking back up 7th Continent, though I suspect that game might not be for me. Rogue-like games often frustrate me; experiencing Groundhog Day is torture, not fun. Though, sometimes rogue-like offerings are decent, and maybe 7th Continent will turn out to be less painful as the die-repeat process occurs. I suspect that, for me, it’s better played with a friend then alone, so as to distribute the frustrating aspects and add in some dialogue and shared contemplation rather than rushing about as I tend to do while alone. Spirit Island is another contender. With the recent release on Steam, playing has become much easier.

20 Most-Played Games Since Mid-January 2019

During the 2019 shutdown of the United States government, a group of us had ample time to play games. Day after day, we’d gather to play Smash Bros as well as various board games. After several of these gatherings, on January 15, I decided to start logging my plays. The above graph represents the games most played since then. I wanted to produce a second chart relying only on plays since the COVID-19 lockdown, but the service I used doesn’t appear to allow me to control timeframes. Perhaps later this month, or in May, I’ll construct the graph to display my pandemic metrics, which will appropriately enough include Pandemic, given that I’ve logged 4 plays. Notably, my gaming log does not include plays via an electronic medium against AI opponents. If I included that info then you’d see hundreds of instances of Shards of Infinity, a stronger Pandemic presence, additional Through the Ages plays, some Aeon’s End, That’s Pretty Clever, 7 Wonders, Ascension, Carcassonne, and Battleline, among other games. At some point, perhaps I’ll start to account for these solo bouts against AI opponents. For now, however, logs are for more substantial undertakings, as in games played with or against other humans or those that involve physical components (e.g., 19 of the 20 instances of Cloudspire were played solo).

This list of games reflects my gaming preferences rather well. Foremost, I’m down to game, and will play a game I don’t love if doing so means I get to hang out with one or more friends while moving around cardboard pieces. Certain games fill this space. My girlfriend will play Space Base or Azul, but not Scythe or Too Many Bones. Similarly, we have friends who will engage at various levels of games, and some games, such as Root, require multiple plays within a condensed span of time to learn the rules, let alone strategies, thus if someone does not regularly participate then having a range of options helps ensure that we play a game.

Thus, Tiny Towns, while fine, isn’t something I’d clamor to play, yet fits many a gaming session as evidenced by its six plays. Quacks of Quedlinburg shot up through the ranks given its short playing time, ease of play, and the goofy fun that it provides. Yet, explaining it takes more time than it warrants without the time and commitment to play multiple times, thus most of its sessions involve the same people. That The Mind did not have more than five plays surprises me, for it’s been a fun game that goes quickly and is easily taught and everyone who has played it has demanded multiple games. I suspect that it has five sessions, in that I logged that we played a series of rounds of it rather than logging each one individually, and that the most recent game to reach five made it to the top twenty. Splendor has seen a shit ton of plays lately due to my brother and I playing two or three games remotely every few nights. It probably went from seven or eight plays to seventeen during COVID.

As I proceed through my catalog, certain games fall further from the rotation. Smash Up might soon leave my collection; it’s too random and swingy, with outcomes feeling more an outcome of happenstance than strategy. Add in that you need to know the factions to feel like you have any ability to plan, you have a game dominated by randomness yet requiring of investment. Another knock against it is that the rules across the various card powers can be finnicky, for you must read the text closely and parse the terms as an attorney, such that you end up debating and researching interactions amongst the cards, squandering time from a game where what you happen to draw as compared with that cards others have available dominates the outcome.

Cloudspire has been wonderful for soloing, and given that there are five factions, each with four solo scenarios, I’m near its end. I think I had to repeat two or three scenarios, which is why with 19 solo sessions I still have four scenarios to go. Go Griege!

Scythe, Root, and Hoplomachus are the games that I’m most eager to play these days. Same with Innovation and Through the Ages. Due to online playing, I suspect these latter two will rise into the Top 20 before long. I’m looking forward to writing about these games, among other ones, as this site continues to progress.

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